The short introduction of OP today has led to explore further into the psycline.
As I was reading Maslow's hierarchy of needs, I was intrigued by the way he catagorised and itemise the different types of needs. I wouldn't concur its 100% accurate but I would agree with the general idea - you can get as many things as you want, but if your basic needs are not fulfilled then you won't be any happier.
When certain things are out of your control, i.e. a new job, good bonus, promotion, lucky draws, those that you can't use money to buy....instead of wishing for the stars and crossing your fingers, it's sometimes wiser to align your expectations to reality.
Though painful a process it can be, it helps you to reassess your expectations, measure them against reality and then hopefully provide some motivation to continue to find ways to nuture your dream.