Just where are you?

i realised that you need not be rich, you need not be handsome.

but, you've got to be confident about yourself and everything that you do.

you've got to have this thirst in you. always wanting to achieve more and more.

you've got to be sporty and fun.

you've got to be smarter than me which is quite easy. haha

most importantly, love me for who i am.

though i am not in a hurry to find you, try not to play hide and seek with me. :(

Life is a mystery

We make choices every single day, each choice no matter how insignificant it may seem to you at that point in time may have a huge barrring on your future. Maybe if i go work by a different route, I bump into my old friend. if i decide to meet him for tea, maybe something will spark off and blossom into true love. Maybe if i'd applied to Harvard University, I might receive an offer.

Who knows?

I am just walking down this road of life being me. There's no need to pretend to be someone else for any reason at all. Even if you think someone you care about might get hurt. You have got to fight for your own happiness. Why let others dicate how you wanna live your life? Ultimately, you have got to be accountable to yourself.

If i want to try, I will go all the way to fight for the things i want. Even if i don't succeed, as least i know that i have tried my best. I don't believe it trying for things half heartedly. You either go for it all the way or not try at all.

I don't want to ever have regrets.

Sunday Blues - Injured and Aching

I was feeling moody and tired from all that activity in the week until Kong shared with me this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0&eurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww%2Efacebook%2Ecom%2Fhome%2Ephp%3Fref%3Dhome&feature=player_embedded

This brigthened up my day somehow.

Leadership Essentials

I spent the last 3 days undergoing this course which i found to be really useful. Being the youngest of the lot, I have learnt a lot about myself and from others through sharing, experimenting and role-playing.

Though I do not have direct reports unlike most others in the course, I have 15 indirect reports consisting of the in-country risk managers. It has been difficult to influence them as they are more senior and more experienced than I am. Besides, I do not have power over them in deciding their job scope, workload and bonuses.

One of the more common mistakes managers fall prey when delegating is that they forget to provide the reasons for the task assign. With the big picture in mind, the staff will find meaning in performing the assignment, leading to greater motivation and productivity.

Basically, there are 6 ways of influencing others

• Reciprocation
• Commitment and Consistency
• Social Proof
• Authority
• Liking
• Scarcity

I find myself using the technique of reciprocation mostly, followed by liking, then Commitment and Consistency. I treat my team with care, consciously making time for them in attending their queries, always standing by them offering assistance whenever possible. I am doing alright so far. However, I feel that to become a more effective leader, I will need to learn how to successfully influence people using the 6 ways above rather than relying on the same few techniques.

My challenge is that I need to know the business in each country really well. This, I find it extremely difficult given the workload that I have. Preparing all sorts of MIS Reports and following up with risk issues takes up quite a bit of time. Against this, I have to complete the global uploads to make it in time for the rollout by the end of month.

I am going to start applying the rock, pebbles, sand perspective when I go to work tomorrow which will set the right priorities for me. Hopefully, it will lead to massive improvement in my productivity.

Happy Ending

I'm a free bird. No more disappointments and headaches. Woots!

Life is still good as we're both still friends. :)

Break Up

I finally broke up after withholding for so long ...

I hope things will get better.